Wednesday, November 16, 2011

What a Negligent Campaign from Wilwaukee against Cosleeping

I watched the video from this news report and I have to say I am frustrated and irked. Click on the link to view the 9:42 minute broadcast.

http://www.fox6now.com/news/witi-100503-bed-sharing,0,7099533.story

Also, click on this link to see Milwaukee's campaign.

http://city.milwaukee.gov/SafeSleep

Notice the flagrant and emotionally charged advertisements which portray a total lack of judgement in every way. A mountain of fluffy pillows, large billowy blankets all wadded up, only a diaper, babies on their bellies, ALONE. And then in the depiction, to show how dangerous sleeping with your baby could be, they place a Large Knife in the bed next to a sleeping baby.

I wonder, isn't this abuse by those producing those posters? I mean, If a social worker walked into a home with a baby undressed, sleeping on his/her belly, alone on a bed piled high with lose blankets and poofy pillows, AND A DANG KNIFE, wouldn't we be hearing about that in the news? Who puts a knife with baby's reach? and leaves them alone?

Granted, there are adults in the room, but they purposely did several dangerous things to two babies in order to prove a point about something not even portrayed.

My largest issue is that instead of telling the truth about co sleeping they simply desire to amputate it from society. The truth is that co sleeping has actually reduces SIDS There are many articles and blogs explaining these things. The Fact is of babies who've died in bed with their parents there is ONE factor in play 100 PERCENT of the time in the Milwaukee area. Further more, many of the deaths attributed to co sleeping actually have Nothing to do with WHERE baby slept at all but had to do with SIDS yet on the documentation the cause of death still states "co cleeping" which is extremely deceiving and bias!  Here we have an opportunity to discuss and counsel parents on how to increase the safety of something they may be doing whether they tell others they are or not. We have an opportunity to reduce dangers, to clarify, to TEACH. Instead we have fear mongering, lying, and a full on assault and a repudiation of not only the practice some choose against, but of the people who do. We have a whole sale dismissal of and denial of any thought process, love, caring, or purpose to sleeping in the same bed as your baby.

Americans love "Information" and we tend to be a bit.....um...snooty, we believe we know everything about everything and that, in fact, we DO everything better than any one else in the world. However; healthcare seems to show us over and over and over again that when it comes to Pregnancy, Childbirth, Infants, and Education, we actually kinda suck. We live in a bubble of inferiority. We are at the bottom of the barrel when it comes to positive outcomes for Mothers and Infants; Cuba, Afghanistan, Iraq, etc...even have better positive outcomes for birth and the entire first year of life for babies.  When it comes to sleeping with babies, we're just like we are about circumcision, the odd ones who do the exact opposite of what other countries do...we separate them very far from us so we can have sex. (come on, you know that is one of the LARGEST reasons--the whole "marital bed" thing as if that bed is the ONLY place a couple can be together)  Do your own due diligence, research the causes of death in other country for infants in countries were co sleeping is the norm: Japan, Korea, Africa, Hong Kong, etc...  Or, you can, again, simply look at our own atrocious score for the first year of life and ask one startling question; What are we doing differently from all these other countries?  ...and then compare the answer to the suggestions by Milwaukee or any other organization.  We need to refrain from "throwing out the baby with the bath water". Yes, indeed there are things we need to avoid but this "campaign" doesn't even touch them. 

Here are are few other responses to this campaign. Each has some information I found useful and agree with.

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Sunday, November 13, 2011

I No Longer Raise Children

For the last little while I keep thinking about a phrase I heard (or read) awhile back. It basically makes the point that maybe if we all--parents, that is--stopped raising "children" and started raising productive and responsible adults we'd be in a better place.

Think about it.

The end goal is to have healthy, reliable, honorable, capable, contributors of society; to have responsible adults.

Our goal is not to have eternal children; a bunch of big people who are emotional 5 year olds...especially when it comes time for them to have children of their own or care for us when we're old and feable.

I wonder how my choices would compare as a Mommy early on if my personal directive had been "raising up adults" rather than "raising children".

I wonder now if I have been engaged in the service of bringing up responsible adults or in lifting them up into something they already were: children?

Along with this is another principle pointing out that if you treat someone as they could be you create room for growth, whereas as if you treat someone as they are now you stunt them from progression.
Putting these two concepts together gives me a strong leaning preference for removing the words "raising children" from our language and social consciousnesses.


Certainly we want to "...teach in a way that does not restrict learning...", influence the development of rich knowledge, deep compassion, intense loyalty, pure integrity, strong family ties, positivity, industrious creativity, responsibility, spiritual connection, and relationship maturity.

So, I have decided I'm no longer raising children...

Nope.

I'm now raising future productive adults...
                  Now...How do I make up for lost time??? And...what's my first step to positive change?
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Friday, November 11, 2011

Veterans Day

This is a day of reverence...
...a day of gratitude...
...of thanksgiving...
...of recognition...
...of remembering...
...of honor...
...of pride...
...of peace...

 Today is Veterans Day...

      ...a day to give tribute to those men and women who love this country so much they were willing to give up all other loves in there life. They stood to protect, honor, and serve this country in any way necessary.
 


I have been born to a family rich with the patriot spirit. Men from the first war this country fought all the way down to the youngest men have stood up, taken oath to protect and defend our country, her constitution, and her allies against her enemies domestic or foreign. My ancestors, my grandparents, my uncles, my cousins, have all been grateful to those before them and protective of those to come after. They love our freedoms protected and guaranteed by our Bill of Rights therefore walked without some of them in order to preserve them for us.

Eventually, I married a man of honor who also felt a deep and moving devotion and dedication to this country where so many opportunities are availed. He, too, is inspired to take up the burden of protection, sacrifice, and service.

I cannot imagine the things they've seen, done, and endured. Conversely I'm only able to imagine the amazing and wonderful things they have been apart of, the things they created, the blessings they brought to others.

Imagine how wonder it would be to know YOU were part of the reason someone now has running water; clean running water to drink and bathe in rather than the stale muddy water they had to carry in buckets to their "homes".

Imagine that because of You someone gets to learn to read and to write.

Imagine being someone children run to knowing you have a kindness, a candy, safety, a bottle of water, security.

Imagine that you have a mission to build a hospital where the infirm and injured can come and gain proper care.

Imagine the light in a mother's eyes because You or your buddy healed an illness, performed a surgery, or set a broken bone which you wouldn't have been able to seek due to distance and the inability to travel or pay.

Imagine chasing a bully away allowing neighborhoods or villages to life in better conditions, eat the whole of the food they grow, the milk their animals produce.

Imagine you make the difference.

OR

Imagine if you thought it wasn't your problem...it was none of your business and those children got no education, no clean water, no security, treats, no health care, no relief.

We talk to often about soldiers the ugliness of war, but have you given yourself a moment to consider the good, the productive, the blessings of our brothers and sisters in these areas of conflict. Have you been able to read about or witness the rebuilding of civilization, the restructuring of government for peace and prosperity, the hospitals and school erected?

Oh should we not be proud! Should we not be pleased with our fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, sons and daughters, ought we not be joyous with our cousins and friends when they step and say that they will go, they will stand up for those who are in need regardless of the personal cost, regardless of the scary circumstances, regardless for their own personal safety because they know within themselves it's the right thing to do? Should we not look upon them with massive amounts of respect and gratitude for doing a moral right, or having the moral courage to leave behind comforts and entertainments and delicious foods while we sit back here continuing to indulge in our passions, our toys, and our treats?

Yes, indeed, our military members have served, fought and sacrificed. However, pulling triggers and launching bombs is not the sum total of their existence. 

They Give.
They Build. 
They Teach. 
They Mend.
They Sing. 
They Play. 
They Befriend.
They Protect. 
They Love. 
They Plant.
They Harvest. 
They Paint. 
They Filter.
They Pack. 
They Ship. 
They Dig.
They Enable.
They Work.

They do so much good. Governments may make decisions based on less than honorable intentions, but our service men and women while obeying there orders reach outside of themselves to work a mighty miracle for the people within those countries they've been sent.

So to all my family and friends who have and are serving in the military, and to all those whom I don't know, THANK YOU for your service, for your guardianship and  




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